Divorce in Texas is a complex process. There are many requirements that must be followed, and information that must be exchanged between spouses. This requires trust and the ability to communicate.
Your divorce can become a nightmare if your spouse is a habitual liar. Their constant dishonesty may have even been one of the reasons for your divorce.
Dealing with a liar in a divorce can make the entire experience more frustrating, lengthy and costly than it needs to be. This can be infuriating, especially if you feel there is nothing you can do about it.
It is true that you cannot control your spouse’s constant lies or dishonesty, but there are some strategies you can use for divorcing a liar.
Demand evidence to back up everything they say
Since you already know that your spouse constantly lies, do not expect anything different in your divorce.
Discovery is an important part of the divorce process. Discovery is the exchange of information on your marital assets and debts for property division. This information is exchanged through sworn testimony or documents.
Since you already do not trust anything that your spouse says, do not agree to anything based on their sworn testimony in a deposition or other verbal claims. If your spouse says the value of their 401K is $25,000, but you are certain it is more than that, request a current statement as part of the discovery process.
Stay calm and do not push for them to tell the truth
While it may be incredibly difficult, stay calm and patient when dealing with your spouse. Do not let them see that their lies are getting to you. If you know they are lying and will continue to lie about whatever the topic is, end the conversation.
Find alternative, healthy methods of venting your anger or frustration at your spouse and their lies. Talk to a therapist or a trusted friend. A strong support system can be invaluable.
Like the discovery process, there are many ways to obtain the honest and accurate information you need to reach a fair resolution to your divorce. Learning these can help you make it through your divorce so that you can move on with your life.